Have you ever noticed how many people blame everybody else for their problems, but they never see fault in what they do?The most common word for this type of person is narcissists.

What makes a person act this way? Here are my thoughts:

A person may act this way to protect a fragile ego.

It can stem from a lack of self-awareness, an immature attitude, or a deep-seated insecurity.

Some individuals have a personality disorder, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), that contributes to this behavior.

Unless you live under a rock, we all have encountered people like this from time to time. Some of us, all too often.

In an overview, this is the best way to handle narcissism.

Managing your own reactions and interactions.

Setting firm boundaries.

Seeking support for yourself, rather than trying to change the other person.

When we come into contact with a narcissist, we need to stay calm and limit any emotional investment into the relationship.

We need to communicate concisely and clearly, so there can be no mistake.

We may have to take a harder stance and keep a distance or have no contact with the individual or individuals.

How does God want us to handle narcissism?

God wants us to love that person, like God loves us. This does not mean we have to spend time with this type of person. The word “love” in this sense means to “understand who and what this person is” and let God handle it from there.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (KJV) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

God loved us even though we are sinners and before we accepted His gift of salvation. God cannot look upon sin, but still loved us enough to give us a way to be forgiven of sin.

In the Bible, Paul, an apostle of Christ, tells us how to handle a narcissist. In this scripture or verses, Paul is talking about divorce, but it also applies to our relationships with others.

1 Corinthians 7:15 (KJV) But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

In the text of this scripture, Paul was preaching about an unbeliever married to a believer and how to handle the situation if the unbeliever wants out of the marriage bond.

When it comes to a narcissist, we also need to depart from them. They don’t see the world as you do. They don’t see God as the authority over everything. Since God calls us to peace, we need to keep our distance from narcissists.

Don’t get me wrong, or start thinking that Christians should abandon these people. That is far from the truth. Rather, God wants us to pray for them and intercede for their behavior and sin, allowing God’s Spirit to work in their lives.

Like always, there is so much more to learn about this topic and I try to keep the blog as short as I can.

I want to encourage you to challenge me on any or all of the topics in this blog by studying God’s word and knowing God’s direction.

I write this blog from my heart, based on what, how, and who I believe in.

Remember two things about being a Christian:

1. We all interpret God’s scriptures according to how His Holy Spirit moves us, into what God wants us to learn.

2. Most of all, we as believers in Christ have confessed our sins and have been forgiven of them through the grace of God, which has made us of one mind in Christ.

So I will leave you with this final scripture.

Ephesians 2:8-9 (KJV) For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.